Gen-X life style; Living-in gaining ground in twin cities
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As the time passes by, the new wind of changes in fashion, life style invading the temple city. It seems the Gen-X come a long way leaving, what they called the old fashioned life style in far behind.
The living -in or living together seems to be the Buzz word among the Gen-X youth in the Capital cityof Orissa. Even the teenagers in the twin cities are quite upbeat about the concept which is slowly but steadily gaining ground in the city of temples.
It seems gone are the days when the parents used to search for a suitable partner for their children. Now the gen-X has gone through a big change. They choose the partners for themselves but do not get married. They rather prefer to live together without the commitment of marriage.
As the MNC culture fast catching up in twin cities along with booming BPO sector the living together is also catching up fast in twin cities.
Many new thought and new life style are propelling this concept in the twin cities. Coming out of four wall boundary, now the Gen-X ( both boys and girls) want to see whether they are compatible with each other in all the fields. So they are even ready to go in for live in relationship before marriage.
The MNC work culture with long working hours provides the rationale for couples opting for living together.
Without any responsibility one is free to enjoy the fun of life and this makes the life all the more easier and smoother. Many say that they want to spend some few days with the partner and then see if they can really adjust and might be then getting married. It has become quite common affair now.
A Software Engineer Sandeep Mishar, who is in a live-in relationship for the past six months, remarks, "I have very erratic working hours so I want to check out if my girlfriend can adjust with me or not."
On the other hand his girl friend who works as a BPO executive in Bhubaneswar says, " we meet each other in a marriage party, before that we are unknown to each other. So I have to know good quality as well as the bad about the guy I am going to marry. I don't want these things to create problems in my life.
Management students Sanjay Gupta and Alpana Malohotra have taken an apartment together in IRC Village from last one and half year says. "Right now, neither of us are ready for marriage. But, we are so much in love with each other that we thought why shouldn't we live together?"
To know more about one's partner, before making the final commitment, is often the reason behind this relationship.
Earlier such live-in was confined to high society but now a days it is spreading fast in middle class, even now lower middle class society finding it very hard to stay away from the clutches of living-in or Living together concept in twin cities.
Shruti Sinha, who works in a call centre, in Bhubaneswar feels that she is open to both live-in and marriage and that her parents have no objection to it. "But, in case I go for a live-in, I would definitely want it to materialise into marriage someday", says Shruti.
However many newly married girls like Ranjeeta Swain have parallel opinion to Shritu Sinha or those who favours this new concept. " I don't feel these relations are required in our society", Ranjeeta firmly says.
She believes that Live-in relationship is an act of escapism from responsibility. The marriage calls for some responsibility from both the partners. I am sorry to say that the present generation has less sense of responsibility and the live-in relationship is one of the manifestations of it.
In most cases, the parents of the couple are unaware of all these new concepts and affairs of their children.
Though such relations are catching up fast among the youth, it is still far from being accepted for the older generation, who continues to believe in the institution of marriage.
Saugat Sen, a marketing executive says, "My parents have no clue about this relationship because they will never accept it. I will tell them about us only when I am ready to marry my girlfriend."
Whatever may be the case the Gen-X who try out all sorts of experiments of living together and not getting the right person, finally ends up with nothing in hand and are remains alone forever in searching for the perfect. This will make a lot of problems and the gen-X will end being totally confused.
A relationship should be built on commitment and love and not lust or confusion as Many Gen-X of today believes. Living together ill satiate the sexual requirement but very often break the emotional bond that is needed for a long term commitment, that's what the case in many big metros so far in many instances.
